Good self-esteem is something you improve by both changing your inner dialogue about yourself to a more positive one and that you DO good, concrete things. That you set boundaries and demand respect, care about your needs and that you act in life in a way that makes you proud of yourself. Pride and self-respect are two important cornerstones of self-esteem and come from doing actions where you stand up for yourself and do the right thing by your own standards.
Strong self-confidence is also something you build up and is a feeling that you can. You can rely on your capacity to handle the challenges you face. You can deal with uncertainty and not knowing the outcome but do it anyway. You can trust yourself, even when you don't know how it's going to end up.
The feeling of being valuable and having capacity is experienced by many at its greatest when they practically do something that is in line with their authentic self.
Many people believe that they should feel valued, strong, courageous, ready, or motivated, before acting. It’s just the other way around. When you act, you will build your self-worth and your confidence. You become braver and more ready the more you practice. When you see what you've already accomplished, the motivation kicks in to do more. So, you should not wait for the right moment, you must release the handbrake and drive. Please read here about how I work and what bottom-up processing means.
Release the handbrake.
Many are amazed at how often they can feel a shift in their well-being, after just one session of hypnosis and hypnotherapy. One session can be equivalent to 10 sessions with a traditional therapist, sometimes more. We can reduce fears, worries and anxiety. We can reduce stress. We can boost self-confidence and self-esteem. If you want to make more substantial changes and create long-term results in your life, I recommend a mentorship.
With the help of hypnosis, hypnotherapy, EMDR, trauma-informed coaching, energy work and practical coaching, we work together for you to release the handbrake, trust yourself and do what is sometimes difficult, uncomfortable, scary, what you cannot or dare not to do. For you to become more comfortable with being you, in a safe and natural way. We can work online with exactly the same good results as IRL with me in Malmö, Sweden.
Find out how the practical and a session works.
About self-esteem and self-confidence
Self-esteem and self-confidence are not static states. Self-esteem is not high or low. Self-confidence is not strong or weak. Instead, these fluctuate from day to day, hour to hour, area to area. But you can build a more solid foundation where self-esteem and self-confidence hold up better.
Good self-esteem or strong self-confidence is not something you have or don't have. You can train these just like a muscle, regardless of the starting position.
Self-confidence is patchy. You trust yourself and your ability in some areas and situations, but not in others. You won't have the same self-confidence in all areas. In areas where you have more experience or had more victories, you will naturally have stronger self-confidence.
The seeds of low self-esteem and self-confidence can be sown in childhood, through experiences that have made us doubt our worth or abilities. Self-esteem and self-confidence can then weaken over time if we don't train them.
When we were little, adults needed to help us with basically everything. Sometimes that belief can follow us into adulthood. Someone else must meet our needs. Our employer, our children, our friends, our partner. They should make us happy. They should take care of us. We simply have the same programming we had as young children. We forget that now that we are adults, we can actually take care of ourselves and learn new skills that seemed impossible before we did it for the first time.
Learning new things can sometimes feel overwhelming and create a feeling that you won't be able to do it. Feeling insecure at first is part of the process. Feeling nervous, overwhelmed, insecure doesn't mean there's anything wrong with us, just that we're about to enter something new, that we don't have as much experience with or where we've had a bad hit or two in the past. As we build our confidence, we will move forward, fall, get back up and move forward again. Just like when we learned to walk.